Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind


The simple things are hard. And this statement, on the surface, sounds very harsh and dismissive. But I think it’s weighted and layered and it bears examination.

“Be who you are…”

I dismissed people who struggle to ‘find themselves’ because I didn’t understand what they were talking about. I should have taken the time to ask. At least then I could separate who seriously searched from those who used it as an excuse to waste time. Find out who you are takes time and courage.

“Say what you feel…”

I don’t think this means a comical Tourette’s level of blurting – an ejaculation of unfettered thoughts and incomplete observations about a current situation. It means that if you know who you are, you know what you feel, and you know how to express it in a mature and understanding way. You want people to know what you feel, not be offended by it.

“Those who mind, don’t matter…”

Bernard Baruch was an intelligent and influential man. I would like to think that he chose his words carefully.

“Mind” is interpreted as “to object to”. As in, “I wouldn’t mind an ice cream right now.”

And, “matter” is interpreted as “to be of consequence or importance”.

“Those who matter, don’t mind”

To those who object to how I feel, you are of no consequence. Because no one can object to how you feel. It’s deep within you.

Those people who are of consequence, won’t object to your feelings and understand they are what make you. And that is why they matter.

What I take from this is, the universe will teach you soon enough about who you are and that will decide who will matter.




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